Your Self-Defeating Behaviors

 Steve Haymore

Students, look at this list of examples of 

Self-Defeating Behaviors:

FAILURE

1. Choosing to feel inferior while around other students and adults

2. Fearing  rejection

3.  Procrastinating 

4. Fearing of failure 

5. Fearing to study with classmates

6. Fear of speaking up in small groups 

7. Hesitant to make decisions 

8. Lack of confidence in your studies 

9. Prejudice toward individual people and groups of people

10. Fear of not making the athletic team

11.  Being a perfectionist at everything 

12. Wanting something without working for it

13. Laziness

14. Withdrawal from others 

15. Overweight

16. Overeating

17. Underweight

18. Self-consciousness of having acne

19. Compulsive behavior 

20. Dishonesty

21. Thinking that school is boring 

22. Thinking “I can’t do it.”

23. Feelings of being disliked by others. “Nobody likes me.” 

24. Thinking, “I will never be an Academic Champion

25. Thinking, “I am not a good reader, then why read.”

26. Being jealous of other students

27. Alcoholism 

28. Drug abuse 

29. Immoral actions and thoughts

30. Worrying too much

31. Depression 

32. Speech impediments

33. Feeling lonely

34. Not knowing what to do

35. Fear of hurting others 

36. Thinking that I cannot concentrate

37. Thinking, “I can’t focus and think straight.”

38. Freezing under pressure

39. Defensiveness 

40. Fear of asking questions

41. Negative attitude 

42. Fear of expressing your opinion

43. Inability to say "no" when you are tempted to veer away from academic success

44. Arrogance

45. Being disorganized

46. Constantly being tardy

47. Goofing off

48. Hesitant to express your feelings

49. Bad planning 

50. Thinking, “I am not a writer.”

51. Easy to forget things

52. Fear of being your real self

53. Unrealistic expectations of self and others 

54. Fear of intimacy 

55. Fear of commitment 

56. Fear of rejection 

57. Thinking, “I am shy in social settings.”

58. Thinking, “I am not leadership material.”

59. nervousness 

60. Fear of tests, especially standardized tests

61. Fear of talking with your teacher 

62. Fear of death 

63. Excessive daydreaming 

64. Trying to please everybody

65. Fear of being successful

66. Thinking, “My teacher thinks I am dumb.”

67. Guilty of various offenses

68. Not trusting anybody

69. Fear of speaking to others first

70. Losing your temper 

71. Thinking, “Why try. I’ll never go to college anyway.”

72. Alienation of others

73. Thinking, “My teacher compares me with my older brother, and I’m not nearly as smart as he is.”

And there are many others! 

Choosing Self-Defeating Behaviors is like punching yourself in the face, and boy does that hurt! 

Can you see just destructive and deadly these SDB's really are? These behaviors destroy you immediately. Eliminate these SDB's instantly and thinking positive, thinking SAB's.  (more about them later). Be wise and burn away any SDB that may be holding you back !

Think of a SDB that you need to eliminate, and choose now to toss it out the window and never let it bother you again. 

You have the freedom to choose your own behavior. Make sure that you choose to get rid of all your SDB's, and that is Choosing the Right!

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